Do you ever look back at a former relationship and wonder what you saw in your one-time flame?
Or do you ever question a friend or family member’s choice in partners?
It’s easy when you’re outside of a relationship to view the bigger picture, the distance providing perspective while damping emotions.
But when you’re in it?
It’s all too easy to bury your head in the sand.
We stick our heads in the sand in relationships for a variety of reasons:
A wife sees a suggestive text on her husband’s phone from an unknown female. Her heart begins to race and panic floods her system. The hint of an affair is overwhelming to her; she cannot face the thought that her marriage is in trouble and that she may lose her husband. She turns away from the text and tries to pretend that she never saw it. That it…
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Precisely the place I am in.
Loved this post.
Do you ever react defensively to someone’s words?
I know I do.
I’m the queen of, “Yeah, but” and “I can’t” and “You don’t understand.”
Someone says something that justifies my ex’s actions and I respond with anger and righteousness (actually, this is not so true anymore, but it was for a long time!).
Someone else tells me that I can make this whole elderly car thing work out for the best and I want to stomp my feet like a frustrated two-year-old and scream in indignation.
Even Brock is not immune. When giving advice on my new career in real estate based upon his years of successful sales experience, I felt myself shutting down and becoming defensive rather than receptive.
So why do I respond this way?
It’s certainly not adaptive.
But there is a reason.
In every one of these cases (and in countless…
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